I got pretty lucky in the passenger backrest department. My wife likes the stock deluxe backrest.

Wingstuff has foam grip covers that make the diameter of the grips bigger, gonna give those a try. I don't want to new grips on. I'll probably get the ergo 3 footrest over the winter.

Sent my iron butt paperwork off a few days after my ride. I guess I should hear back from them around mid november.